How arrogant we are! How special we think ourselves to believe that our secrets are so unique, to feel that we bear the burden of dark thoughts alone. None are without sin, no not one.
So, if we agree that there are dark things in our minds, thoughts that we may be uncomfortable with, what should we do with them? Should we tell the world? Should we tell a friend, a loved one or a family member? Or should we keep it to ourselves? After all, what they don't know wont hurt them, right?
Maybe we think it's none of their business and that our mental secrets are ours alone? I can say from personal experience I have told some pretty big whopper secrets to someone I trust, recently. Then, I asked myself why? Why did I do that? Am I better for telling this person? I think I am. Here's why.
First, I have found a deep understanding, trust and safety in that person because of honesty and openness. We have develop a relationship that is based on the greatest aspect of communication, truth. Know the truth and it will set you free. I say, 'tell' the truth and it will set you free!
Second, because I don't feel alone with my thoughts. I also discovered this person has had similar thoughts and so now when I close my eyes at night and dream or drift through my mind I don't feel alone. That person is in there with me, understanding and experiencing it with me. I can except these thoughts as normal (at least in my circle of kinship). I can revel in that and be glad.
I am the pig who finds out he is a pig and rolls in the mud because he loves it so and has no need to feel bad about it. Because that's what pigs do!
Telling these secrets really had no logical reason other than it was an exercise in honesty.
And, boy was it!
Honesty is the best policy. Be honest from the get-go. Lay your hand down on the table and let the chips fall where they may. You may scare people off but were those people worth keeping around to begin with? I think not.